Whoa! That’s a huge question but sometimes it comes to that!

There can be a million reasons why you’re second guessing your bridal party choices. Are they stealing your shine and making it all about them?

Are they not participating in the planning? Are they being difficult to deal with…or are you simply losing your mind from stress and blowing things out of proportion? All of these are entirely possible!

Whether they’re your childhood friend you don’t see that much, your fiancées sister or a friend from work – the bridesmaid’s gig is a serious undertaking.

When you asked them to be part of your big day, were you clear on what support you needed or were you just excited they said yes? Chances are, you jumped straight into wedding planning mode and picking out dresses. All that stuff is fun but there’s real work to be done. If you’re thinking about firing a member of your bridal party, take a deeeep breath….

Have you talked to them and explained what you need help with? Maybe they have no idea! Have you explained that being a bridesmaid is more than just looking cute and drinking champagne?

Make your expectations clear and provide an outline of her official duties. It is after all, her job to make your day easier. Some people are born to do it (27 Dresses style) and others might be relieved they’re off the hook.

The truth is, it’s your day (and your life) and if you’d rather not have someone in it then that’s your call. Remember, the photos are forever!